Beginners may edge 4-5 times before reaching orgasm. This may increase as you become more aware of your body
Edging is the practice of delaying orgasm by stopping just before or right at the edge of an orgasm. Also called teasing, surfing, or peaking, edging is generally used to enhance sexual pleasure or to treat certain conditions such as premature ejaculation.
Edging should not be confused with anorgasmia, which is a medical condition where a person does not reach an orgasm despite repeated sexual stimulation. Unlike anorgasmia, edging is done deliberately to delay orgasm.
Beginners may edge 4-5 times before reaching orgasm. This may increase as you become more aware of your body and learn to recognize the signs of orgasm. While you can edge as many times as you like, but avoid doing it to the point where the act becomes uncomfortable or frustrating for you or your partner.
What are the benefits of edging?
Edging has several benefits:
- Increases orgasm intensity
- Increases duration of sexual activity
- Helps treat premature ejaculation
- Increases awareness of sexual triggers
- Helps couples find new ways of enhancing sex
- Builds greater confidence and intimacy between sexual partners
Edging has a lot to do with mindfulness. Understanding the limits and needs of your body can help you increase sexual pleasure.
What happens during edging?
Edging involves the following:
- Stimulating yourself or asking your partner to do so until the point of the orgasm
- Decreases or stops stimulation to avoid reaching climax (may last for about 20-30 seconds)
- Starts again and increases stimulation
- Repeats cycles of coming to the point of orgasm until it is finally achieved
With practice, you will eventually learn when you are about to reach orgasm
When stimulation is stopped right before reaching climax, it is called the stop-start method, often practiced by men with premature ejaculation. Another method called squeezing involvings stopping stimulation and squeezing the tip of the penis to avoid reaching climax.
To make edging a more pleasurable experience, discuss it with your partner before having sex. That way you will both know what to expect during the activity. This may also help each partner understand how the other likes to be stimulated and for how long.
Edging is safe and can help enhance sexual pleasure. Contrary to some beliefs, edging does not sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or retrograde ejaculation.
Medically Reviewed on 1/7/2022
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